Friday 17 April 2015

the power of one

As Caitlin and I sat watching the kids dig themselves into a big hole yesterday, I was reminded of a post from Picklebums a couple of years ago.

The power of one child is something that I notice every now and again. I looked for Natalie on 3 separate occasions as we sat on the beach, but she was most noticeable in her absence of noise. No one was hitting others, no one was yelling. They just played, together, even Douglas.

That's not to say that Natalie causes those behaviours; she can play just as nicely with Riley or Douglas when the other is missing, if they are otherwise occupied.

Meaning that last week, when Douglas was interstate visiting his big brothers, Natalie and Riley were less than stellar in their behaviour.

One is also powerful when adding to the mix. Caiden and Lana come over once a week while Caitlin and James work later. They will usually play well together with Riley and Natalie, but when Douglas gets home from school, patterns shift and behaviour changes, and five don't play well again.

Eventually Sophie will want to be a part of this mass. Maybe she will be the critical point where things change? But good or bad, one child is noticeable by their presence or absesnce.

Do you notice the power of one?
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8 comments

  1. What an interesting observation. I am sure this is something I will be more aware of when my babes are older... I certainly notice the power of one particular 'friend' of Dora's... I think that's a story for another time though :P

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  2. Too true! I suppose these dynamics can be found in many places i.e. workplace/ playground. I have quite a naughty toddler and I wonder what impact she will have on Baby Raj as she grows up- not sure if I can deal with two naughty ones!!!!

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  3. Happens all the time with me .. and it doesnt matter which child is not there, the dynamics are different and therefore behaviour is different.

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  4. I am sure there will be lots of comments echoing your observations - I remember that as they grew, it kept changing too so nothing stayed the same for long.

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  5. Works with one man and three women as well. My son can't get along with me, his wife and his sister when we're all together. He always has to put one of us down; I don't think he's even aware of what he's doing. Wish my daughter was the one he got along with at least some of the time.

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  6. Works with one man and three women as well. My son can't get along with me, his wife and his sister when we're all together. He always has to put one of us down; I don't think he's even aware of what he's doing. Wish my daughter was the one he got along with at least some of the time.

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  7. This will be interesting for me to see as my girls get older.

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  8. Raising twins, we definitely see the dynamics change when we spend one on one with them. Truly is amazing to witness.

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