As I watched the kids run around the park, I pondered yet again the big age gaps between them all. Chloe turns 18 this year, and Sophie will be 3 just a few weeks later. That's a difference of 15 years. And so much has changed in the world in that time. The first iPod only came out 15 years ago, and Facebook bought Instagram 3 years ago. That got me thinking - what are the good and bad things about big age gaps between kids?
Pros of big age gaps
- big kids can help more around the house This frees up time to focus on the little ones
- big kids can operate technology when Douglas was little, and Chloe wasn't around, he needed help using gadgets. Now he's the one turning things on and off for the little ones
- big kids can guide little kids by sharing their experiences I caught Douglas and Chloe chatting a couple of times during our day. I have no idea what was mentioned, but I know there would have been some great advice from Chloe (she's previously shared tips on social media, and for starting high school)
- they always keep you on your toes Because there's different needs according to different ages, there's never a dull moment.
Cons of big age gaps
- never getting new toys This is something we really noticed with Sophie - there's no need to buy more toys, because we have so many in the house already.
- big kids know how to upset little kids Riley hates being called a baby. So Douglas calls him a baby to upset him. I caught Riley just last week calling Sophie a baby, which upset her.
- sometimes big kids behave like little kids Quite often, we get silly behaviour from Douglas that we would more expect of Riley.
- big kids scare little kids Irrational fears become magnified when your brother is chasing you around with an ant on a stick.
- big kids leave home Once they start their own lives, it can be difficult to keep the connection with siblings.