time to trust our husbands

As I read yet another post this morning from a mum getting ready to head off to the ProBlogger Event next week, it occured to me that many of us don't trust our husbands.

Oh, I don't mean that we think he's going to step out on us, I mean we don't trust him with the kids.

We stress ourselves out, writing out recipes, shopping, pre-cooking meals, organising play dates and school runs. Why?

Sure, he doesn't know the after-school-homework-chores routine. And he isn't the best cook in the world (or maybe that's just my husband), but why are we taking his autonomy away?

So the kids might eat frozen pizza for a day or two, or not get the after-school-chores finished. So what?

We have to let our husbands make the juggle, so they can feel good that they made it through the weekend without us.

Yep, we're at home with the kids, and if he can't get time off work we can help by organising after school pick ups, but the kids won't die if they wear the same clothes 3 days in a row (in fact, they might think it's pretty cool to have a special secret from their time with dad)

And if he has to drag them all out to the supermarket, he'll understand why we don't venture out very often.

But don't take away his ability to look after the kids by micromanaging. They're his kids too, and they'll jump all over you when you get home. Enjoy the conference.

interview with a husband

after-ceremony selfie

I read Kylie's post late last Wednesday afternoon, sitting on the couch trying to keep my eyes open after driving right through from Airlie Beach on Tuesday (we got home at 2am Wednesday morning) And I knew that I was going to get Steve to answer the questions, too. But I didn't broach the subject until Thursday morning, after all the kids were gone for the day and we could actually hear ourselves think. He played along, and answered (and I only took first responses, no changes to his words.)

What is the best part about being married to Cate? do I really have to answer that? you're honest and reliable.

What is the worst part about being married to Cate? you can be a cranky old bum

What is Cate's most annoying habit? reading when I'm talking

What is Cate's most endearing habit? you're a good cook

What do you admire most about Cate? you can be good fun sometimes

What was the first thing that attracted you to Cate? you seemed like a good sort

What do you enjoy most about being a dad? camping with the kids

What do you enjoy least about being a dad? shouting, misbehaviour

{I left out the questions about before kids, because we had kids when we met}

What is your most hated chore? cleaning

What is your keast hated chore? handyman work

What is your favourite thing to cook? cue laughter, Steve has only cooked once in 8 years of marriage, because I wasn't here!

What do you think annoys Cate the most about you? ranting

What do you think Cate loves most about you? work hard for us

Why do you think Cate is lucky to be married to you? no one else would have you {joking}

What do you think is the secret to a happy marriage? honesty and reliability

linking up with Jess for #IBOT