Monday 24 November 2014

the summer of yes

I say no to my kids

a lot

I don't know if it's more or less than other mothers

but I've started to notice recently that I say "no" just to stop them

make them go away

without really listening to what they're asking

and I don't like it.

I don't like the parenting I am doing

and in some ways, it's not surprising that they're a whole lot just a bit naughty at times

I wonder if I said "yes" more often, if they wouldn't ask for so much stuff?

If I said "yes" to every icy pole and biscuit and turn under the sprinkler, and time on the ipad, would they self-regulate better?

or would it backfire, and they'd eat a bag of popcorn for breakfast, and soft drink before bed?

I think I need to have a go at saying yes more often*

- because I'd like to think that my kids have better self-control than I give them credit for

I hope I'm pleasantly surprised by them

It could be a interesting summer

* within the bounds of safe & sensible, I'll say yes to everything for the month of January, and make note of what happens for all the kids. Call it an experiment, if you will.
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  1. That'll be interesting. Hope you don't end up having maccas for dinner every night, although I remember one day when I was in primary school we had maccas for lunch and dinner and it was pretty much the best day of my life!

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  2. I am touched by your self-awareness and desire to try something different for a better outcome. Saying 'yes' more is bound to give you fresh information on which to base future decisions. Looking forward to hearing how it goes ...

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  3. Oh how FUN - I hope you'll enjoy it as much as the kids!

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  4. You really are such a good mum.......looking forward to hearing how it goes xx

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