There's this girl I know - she's got a couple of kids, and a husband, and works a full time job from home. I caught a post from her on facebook the other day, lamenting that yet another friend had dropped her for being a bad friend, and she was full of justification "I'm busy, I work, and the kids, and the husband, and..."
That's about where I switched off in the conversation. Because I get it. I'm the mum who has a baby that doesn't like sleeping during the day. And the mum who has other kids to deal with. And the husband. I get it.
But here's the thing - it's not the first time she's lamented this. She's a repeat offender.
And you know what? It's ok. It's ok to be so busy that you don't know if you're coming or going. It's ok to be so busy that when the kids finally collapse into bed, you lay on the couch thinking "I can't be bothered"
But. And it's a big but. It's not ok to use it as an excuse for lazy* behaviour. Because not responding to text messages? Not responding to PMs? That's just lazy. Especially when you can take the time to respond promptly to facebook comments and instagram messages.
Remember my mantra? "If it's important, you'll find a way; if not, you'll find excuses" Busy has become an excuse. You should be finding a way to connect.
* definition of lazy - unwilling to use energy
Are you always busy? When did you last connect with a friend?